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We have compiled articles for your reading. These articles explain attachment trauma, and the way traumatic childhood may affect the adult relationship. We also include a link on emotional regulation and the impact of addictions in a relationship..
 Emotions are a normal part of our everyday lives. Everyone experiences them. For some though, feeling these emotions can seem overwhelming, like an out-of-control roller coaster. It is common for one or more strong emotions to occur before an individual engages in self-injury. These often include: guilt, sadness, feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, anger, self-blame, and low self-worth.
Read more at
http://selfinjury.bctr.cornell.edu/perch/resources/what-is-emotion-regulationsinfo-brief.pdf
The person dealing with addictive behaviors may react with denial, defensiveness, minimization, or rebellion. Their partner may respond with accusations, judgment, excessive caretaking, or attempts to control the other person’s behaviors. No matter which cycle they are stuck in, there is one thing these couples can agree on: both partners are hurting. What they often cannot agree upon is why.
Read more at
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/overcoming-addiction-in-relationships-an-attachment-perspective-0228185
While COVID-19 dominates our attention and resources, creating conflicts and unity, revealing the best and the worst human behaviors, uncertainty persists, and there are legitimate concerns about the toll this pandemic is taking—physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially.
Read more at
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emerging-wisdom/202006/why-we-need-know-about-post-traumatic-growth
If you deal with overwhelming anxiety, you know it can affect your entire being. Your mind may be filled with fear and visions of future disasters. Your body will tense as your fight, flight, or freeze system kicks in. 
Read more at
hhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-act-be/202002/the-3-best-ways-manage-anxiety
What happens to us as children can affect the attachment style we carry into our adult relationships. Trauma hugely influences attachment.
Read more at
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/201708/4-ways-traumatic-childhood-affects-adult-relationships

Dissociation refers to being disconnected from the present moment. It is a subconscious way of coping with and avoiding a traumatic situation or negative thoughts.

While about half of people may have experienced an event of dissociation in their lifetime, only about 2% are actually diagnosed with what is known as a dissociative disorder.2

Read more at
https://www.verywellmind.com/dissociation-anxiety-4692760
When a role model treats you as an extension of herself—there to meet her needs—the trauma can be long lasting. It takes a very strong person to overcome the effects, let alone maintain a constructive relationship with the parent. But there's hope.
Read more at
https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/articles/200707/borderline-walking-the-line
Although it is not unlawful for parents to cane their children, some lawyers said there are legal “parameters” that ensure it does not go into the realm of child abuse. 
Under the Children and Young Persons Act (CYPA), inflicting “unnecessary” physical pain, suffering or injury, any emotional harm, or injury to a child’s health or development - amounts to ill-treatment.
Read more at
https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/caning-children-abuse-parents-court-lawyers-legal-parameters-13023810?fbclid=IwAR33t88_Bm0XS8my81Y1ryVTnt6qktd1FXHgElnaepFbuiXLx4Wl8D8GAdY

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